As difficult as it is for many of us to do, we recognise that getting final closure in any relationship is helpful to us in the long term. It provides a sense of finality that can be crucial for personal growth and the ability to form new relationships in the future.
Saying a final goodbye and agreeing to move on, whether it be in a romantic relationship, work situation or in a friendships, requires courage and inner strength. It helps emotional healing, making it possible to move past a significant life event or relationship.
Fear Of Closure
Fear of closure and hanging on to the past with rose- tinted glasses can prevent us from fully embracing a new life and finding greater fulfilment. There are few common reasons we fear closure and it is worth working through these if these persists. We are coming to the end of the year and the beginning of a New Year, it may be worth considering how to best manage a closure you are struggling with.
Fearing the Unknown can lead us to feel lonely and scared about what the future holds for us. New beginnings can be uncertain, we are more comfortable with is familiar to us rather than risking change.
Loss of Identity can be experienced as closure can mean a reassessment of one’s identity and this can be a daunting process.
Unresolved Issues within relationships can leave feelings of resentment and conflict. There may still be a feeling of unfinished business.
Attachment to Past Experiences, however negative, can create a reluctance to letting go and moving on and a fear of not finding anything better in the future.
The Benefits of Closure
Closure can be beneficial in a number of ways, including:
Emotional healing takes place more quickly allowing you to move past significant life events and relationships, and process your emotions.
Mentally you feel more stable and able to function more effectively.
Understanding yourself can lead you to understand why a relationship didn’t work out, and what you want from life and your next relationship or job.
Self confidence returns more quickly and you feel stronger in yourself for making the decision to move on.
Understanding the root of your fear can help you address it more effectively. Consider reflecting on specific experiences or feelings that contribute to your fear of closure. Mindfulness practices can greatly help as they bring you back to the present. Coaching also can support you move forward, setting goals and getting you into a positive action-focused mindset.
Upcoming Events in 2025
Mindfulness Workshop 19th January
Reclaiming Yourself 15th February
Learn some simple, yet powerful Mindfulness tools and techniques to deal with stress and anxiety. Learn to calm your mind, find more joy in life, be more engaged with life, and let go of all that disturbs your peace. You will leave the workshop feeling refreshed.
This day is all about finding and reclaiming yourself, your Inner Strength and Resilience. It is about reminding you of who you are beyond the situations you find yourself in, your self-doubt, limiting beliefs and stuck emotions.